Books

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About Divorce

Divorcing
by Melvin Belli and Mel Kranzler St Martins Mass Market Paper; ISBN: 0312927444; Reprint edition (February 1992)

Divorce and Money: How to Make the Best Financial Decisions During Divorce by Violet Woodhouse
Nolo Press; ISBN: 0873375580; 5th edition (June 2000)

Divorce Handbook for California: How to Dissolve Your Marriage Without Disaster (Rebuilding Books)
by James W. Stewart, Honorable James W. Stewart J.D. Impact Publishers, Inc.; ISBN: 1886230234; 4th edition (September 1999)

Ahrons, Constance. The Good Divorce: Keeping Your Family Together When Your Marriage Comes Apart . Harper Perennial/Harper Collins, 1995.

Brinkman, Rick & Rick Kirschner. Dealing With People You Can’t Stand: How to Bring Out the Best in People at Their Worst . McGraw-Hill, 1994.

Friedman, James T. The Divorce Handbook . Random House, 1999.

Hethereington, E. Mavis. and Kelly, John For Better or For Worse: Divorce Reconsidered Surpising Results from the Most Comprehensive Study of Divorce in America . W.W. Norton & Company; ISBN: 0393048624; 1 Ed edition (January 2002)

Krantzler, Ph.D., Mel & Melvin Belli. Divorcing . St. Martins Press, 1992.

Stewart, James W. Divorce Handbook for California: How to Dissolve Your Marriage Without Disaster . Impact Publishing, 1999.

Talia, M. Sue. How to Avoid the Divorce from Hell and Dance Together at Your Daughter’s Wedding . Nexus Publishing Company, 1997.

Trafford, Abigail. Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building A New Life . Harper Perennial, 1992.

Walther, Anne N. Divorce Hangover . Pocket Books, 1991 (out of print, but sometimes still obtainable).

Woodhouse, Violet & Victoria Felton-Collins with M. C. BlakBan. Divorce & Money: How to Make the Best Financial Decisions During Divorce . Nolo Press Self-Help Law, 1998.

About Negotiation and Communication

Ellison, Sharon Strand, Taking the War out of Words: The Art of Poweful Non-Defensive Communication Bay Tree Publishing (2002) Human communication has been shaped by our focus on defensive self-protection and power struggle. Sharon Ellison describes a method of listening and speaking which can give each of us clarity, confidence and power

Mnookin, Robert H. Beyond Winning: Negotiating to Create Value in Deals and Disputes Belknap Press (2004) Mnookin heads the Harvard Negotiation Research Project; both of his coauthors have been project research fellows. Conventional negotiating strategy often requires adversarial positions, but the authors propose viewing negotiating as a problem-solving task. They target lawyers (and, by extension, those who hire lawyers) who “feel sickened by the trench warfare and exhausted by cases that drag on” when opposing battle lines are drawn. They explain that creating value is the key to successful negotiating. The goal should not be to win the biggest piece of the pie but to make the pie bigger! The authors show how negotiation requires balancing three sets of tensions: those between winning and “making the pie bigger,” between empathy and assertiveness, and between principals and agents. They suggest that lawyers are uniquely positioned to create value when resolving disputes and making deals. A major portion of the book is devoted to illustrating concrete problem-solving techniques, and the authors conclude with a consideration of the professional and ethical dilemmas posed by legal negotiations

About Kids

Bienenfeld, Florence . Helping Your Child Suceed After Divorce . Hunter House, 1987.

Burns, Cherie. Stepmotherhood: How to Survive Without Feeling Frustrated, Left Out, or Wicked . Time Books/Random House, 1985.

Dodson, Dr. Fitzhugh. How to Father . Signet Books, 1975.

Gardner, M.D., Richard A. The Parents Book About Divorce . Bantam Books, 1991.

Garrity, Carla B., & Mitchell A. Baris. Caught in the Middle: Protecting the Children of High-Conflict Divorce . Lexington Books, 1994.

Hannibal, Mary Ellen Good Parenting Through Your Divorce: The Essential Guidebook to Helping Your Children Adjust and Thrive Based on the Leading National Program Marlowe and Company (2006) This is the book based on the Kids’ Turn program

LeShan, Eda. What’s Going to Happen to Me? Aladdin Books, 1978 (out of print, but sometimes still obtainable).

Marston, Stephanie. The Divorced Parent: Success Strategies for Raising Your Children After Separation . Pocket Books, 1994 (out of print, but sometimes still obtainable).

McKay, Matthew, Kim Paleg, Patrick Fanning, & Dana Landis. When Anger Hurts Your Kids: A Parent’s Guide . New Harbinger Publications, 1996.

Custody Chaos, Personal Peace: Sharing Custody with an Ex Who Drives You Crazy
by Jeffrey P. Wittman, Ph.D. Perigee; ISBN: 0399527109; October 9, 2001

Nelson, Jane, Cheryl Erwin, & Carol Delzer. Positive Discipline for Single Parents: A Practical Guide to Raising Children Who Are Responsible, Respectful, and Resourceful . Prima, 1993.

Ricci, Ph.D., Isolina. Mom’s House, Dad’s House – Making Two Homes for Your Child . Simon & Schuster, 1997.

Unell, Barbara C., & Jerry Wyckoff. 20 Teachable Virtues: Practical Ways to Pass on Lessons of Virtue and Character to Your Children . Perigee, 1995.

Warshak, Ph.D., Richard A. The Custody Revolution . Poseidon Press, 1992.

Alternative Dispute Resolution

Collaborative Practice:

Cameron, Nancy J., Collaborative Practice: Deepening the Dialogue, The Continuing Legal Education Society of British Columbia , 2004

Fagerstrom, Karen; Wilde, Diana; Thompson, Peggy; Nurse, Rodney; Kalish, Milton; Ross, Nancy and Wolfrum, Thomas – Divorce: A Problem to be Solved, NOT a Battle to be Fought, Brookwood Publishing, 1997

Stoner, Katherine Divorce Without Court: A Guide to Mediation and Collaborative Divorce NOLO press (2006)

Tesler, Pauline and Thompson, Peggy: Collaborative Divorce Regan Books June 2006 hardcover / 288 pages

Tesler, Pauline H., Collaborative Law, Achieving Effective Resolution in Divorce Without Litigation, American Bar Association, 2001

Webb, Stu and Ousky, Ron: The Collaborative Way to Divorce: The Revolutionary Method that Results in Less Stress, Lower Costs, and Happier Kids–Without Going to Court Belknap University Press, Cambridge Massachusetts London , England , 2000

Mediation

Folberg, Milne, Ann and Salem, Peter Divorce and Family Mediation: Models, Techniques and Applications Guilford Press (2004)—–“Folberg et al. have gathered into one comprehensive volume the experience, conceptual frameworks, and opinions of a large group of leaders who have emerged in the family mediation field over the past 25 years. These interdisciplinary authors provide in-depth views of multiple aspects of contemporary family and divorce mediation. Examined are different mediation models that are now practiced in diverse settings; techniques and strategies for managing communication, power, impasses, and common elements of the mediation process; and ways to deal with such special issues as domestic violence and working with children. This book will be enormously useful to students of dispute resolution, mediation trainers, and novice and experienced mediators seeking more clarity in an ever-expanding and changing field.”–Joan B. Kelly, PhD, psychologist and past president, Academy of Family Mediators

Friedman, Gary A Guide to Divorce Mediation: How to Reach a Fair, Legal Settlement at a Fraction of the Cost Workman Publishing Company (1993) ——In A GUIDE TO DIVORCE MEDIATION, Mr. Friedman lists four criteria necessary for every couple about to enter into mediation: motivation to mediate, self-responsibility, willingness to disagree, and willingness to agree. He explains the ground rules, the legal ramifications, and where to find a mediator. Also included are 12 detailed case studies to show how in almost all instances mediation has succeeded with a variety of personalities and situations.

Monk, Gerald and Winslade, John: Narrative Mediation: A New Approach to Conflict Resolution Jossey Bass (2000) —–In this groundbreaking book, John Winslade and Gerald Monk — leaders in the narrative therapy movement-introduce an innovative conflict resolution paradigm that is a revolutionary departure from the traditional problem-solving, interest-based model of resolving disputes. The narrative mediation approach encourages the conflicting parties to tell their personal “story” of the conflict and reach resolution through a profound understanding of the context of their individual stories. The authors map out the theoretical foundations of this new approach to conflict resolution and show how to apply specific techniques for the practical application of narrative mediation to a wide-variety of conflict situations.

Stoner, Katherine Divorce Without Court: A Guide to Mediation and Collaborative Divorce NOLO press (2006)

Books and Articles:Technical/Professional

Family Advocate , “The Father’s Custody Case,” American Bar Association, Winter 1993 (periodical available from the ABA, Family Law Section , Chicago ).

Guralnick, Mark S. Interstate Child Custody Litigation . American Bar Association, 1993.

Hodges, William F. Interventions for Children of Divorce . John Wiley & Sons, Inc., 1991.

Shafte, Dianne. Child Custody Evaluations, a Practical Guide . Sage Publications, Newbury Park , California , 1985.